You only asked her to turn off the computer. Now your kid is a giant mess. Here is what is really going on during this time of total meltdown.

Her face changes: Be on the lookout for her expression to change into a frown. This will signal an emotional change. Catch the signs and ask her what is wrong. You may be able to avoid a huge outburst.

Emotions can overload the brain: Your child’s anger triggers the left side of the brain and despair activates the right side. With the entire brain all lit up, she can not process any information. You just need to stay silent. Talking will just prolong the outburst.

Now the fight or flight kicks in: Stress is flooding your child’s system. Raising the blood pressure and a racing pulse. Deep breaths cause relaxation. Catch your child’s eye and try some. She may copy after you.

Distress comes in different phases: During a fit, emotions follow a pattern. First is rage, next is sadness possibly in the form of tears.

As the fury fizzles: When your child begins whining or collapsing it is a sign that the storm is ending. Go give your child a quick hug when this happens. Later, you can think of ways to avoid these strong reactions. For instance, a 5 minute warning before the computer is to be shut off. It is simple, but powerful.

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