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Whether it is the first or the tenth time, leaving your child overnight often evokes excitement for you, we all need the occasional break, after all, but also guilt and worry (“Will she be OK without me?”). Your 7 or 8 year-old may have the same kinds of feelings.

Children this age are becoming more independent in all aspects of their lives. They are better able to keep track of their belongings and follow through on expectations. Their circle of friends has widened and they require less supervision. Most children love this new found freedom.

But many feel ambivalent. The world is a big place and not all adventures work out the way they had hoped. As a result, 7 and 8-year-olds commonly engage in a “push and pull” with parental attention, needing it immensely at some points and shunning it at others.

This ambivalence can make it tricky to plan an adults only outing. But doing so allows your child a safe tryout into the world of being without you. It allows him to take on additional responsibility on a short term basis, to experiment with coping skills and to deepen bonds with another caregiver.

You can deal with the guilt you may feel by remembering that you are creating learning opportunities for your child. You may also want to choose a close relative as a caregiver, like an aunt, to ease your mind. Provide suggestions for activities to the caregiver, but leave the door open for her to come up with her own spur of the moment plans. Share details about bedtime or other routines in writing. Finally, try to project confidence in your child’s ability to manage without you and in your own ability to manage without her.

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