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Leaving your child in another ones care is a learning opportunity.

Enjoy Your Freedom. It is a good thing for your child to see that you have a life and a source of joy other than them. Your going away also gives your child the opportunity to get to know their caregiver in a new way.

Let Them Reach Out. Rather than call, which might remind your child how much they miss you, you should invite your child to call you when they want to touch base with you. You might also choose to text or email to keep the communication on the light side.

Leave A Love Note. Give your caregiver a note to give your child at breakfast or record your voice reading a bedtime story. This allows your child to know you are thinking about them without taking them away from the fun activities they will be doing in your absence.

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Hanging With Your Aunt

I Love My Aunt!

One way to foster independence and personal power, while maintaining limits, is to offer your toddler specific choices whenever possible. Begin as soon as your child can indicate their selection to you, either by pointing, signing or speaking. Most children are ready to participate meaningfully in choice making by 10 or 11 months old.

There are certain times when providing choices can be especially helpful to you. It can ease the transition from one activity to the next, for instance. (“Do you want to carry your hat or your snack to the car?”). Choices can also help provide structure in an overwhelming environment like a large playground.

Finally, think back to your past power struggles over nap time, diaper changing or getting in the car seat. With a little forethought, you might avoid conflict next time by offering your child a choice.

Take a look at a child’s input.

Child's Input

The blue one, please.

Which sippy cup do your want? Which swing would you like to use? Should we cut your sandwich into rectangles or triangles? These are all small decisions, but giving your child a chance to choose will go a long way toward promoting their development and fostering harmony in your home.

After your child turns 1, you will notice that they increasingly make their own wishes known. In fact, communicating their desires is critical to developing autonomy and a sense of personal power, which in turn lay the foundation for healthy self esteem. Without the opportunity to make choices, a toddler may dig in their heels, which may lead to power struggles with you and tantrums.

Cap It At Two: It is difficult for toddlers to hold more than two choices in mind at the same time. By limiting your child to just two, both of which are acceptable to you, you can make it easier for them to choose.

Offer A Time Limit: Use choices to help smooth transitions between activities, but give them a time limit to make their choices. Decide if you want the blue or purple bowl while I get your cereal.

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Child's Input

The blue one, please.

A baby’s first smiles are just reactions to gas. Now that is just funny. If you have ever been around my kids you might think so. We can not be sure about the motivation, but babies are born with reflexes that cause them to imitate the faces they see. So when you smile, your baby reflects that expression back to you, without even knowing why you are smiling or what the smile means. Soon he will discover what smiling is all about and will do it on purpose.

When a newborn suddenly flails and jerks both his arms and legs, he is having a seizure. Usually not. These are startles. Startles happen when a baby has been abruptly disturbed, by a loud noise, for example, but they may also occur for no apparent reason. Startles may worry you, but they serve a purpose. When a baby is upset by a sudden disruption, the startle reflex sets off a chain of other reflexes, leading the baby to bring his hand to his cheek and then to his mouth. When he sucks on his hand or fingers, he is able to comfort himself and recover from the upset. Babies are wired to respond to life’s first discomforts in ways that teach them to soothe themselves.

Too much holding and handling will spoil your baby. Lots of affection will not spoil your baby. It strengthens the bond between the two of you and his sense of security. It is up to you and your family to find the balance between your baby’s need for closeness and the other demands of providing for him. When he starts showing signs that he is ready, allow him to learn to calm and entertain himself.

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Is It True

I can see you.